Oftentimes, people want others to think that Adam fell because the woman made him fail. But it was more a leadership problem than an emotional problem. GOD placed the role of leadership on man right from creation. He was on site before the assistant, the woman came. Adam had the rules, while Eve was expected to follow his lead, be submissive, and wait on him to be corrected. He was the leader who was expected to know. While his wife could make mistakes, he wasn't expected to fail where the wife fails.

Adam failed on his own, it wasn't the fault of the woman. The woman was so submissive to Adam to the point that she took the instruction of the man (Adam) to be the word of GOD and added it to the Word of GOD.

 Look at what she said when she was asked: “Now the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said to the woman, “Has God indeed said, ‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden’?” (Ge 3:1, NKJV.)

See her response to the serpent: the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat the fruit of the trees of the garden; but of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God has said, ‘You shall not eat it, nor shall you touch it, lest you die.’” (Gen 3:2—3.)

This is nothing else order than submission. She was so submissive to Adam to the point that she took the instruction of her husband to be the Word of GOD. But unfortunately, when she needed the man to correct her mistakes, the man failed her and at the same time failed GOD.

Man, God won't listen to your excuse that you failed because your wife made you fail; no, He will not. She is depending on you to know what's right from wrong she must not do. Knowledge is very key for man to lead his home or command his home in the way of the Lord.

GOD didn't tell Adam not to touch the tree of the knowledge of Good and evil, but Adam was the one who told Eve not to touch it. She didn't misreport the situation to the serpent, she was only showing her magnitude of submission to the decision of her husband. she respected the husband to the point that she assumed the word of her husband to be the word of the Lord. She was at her best but the man was found wanting in his role of leadership over her, to correct her mistakes.

In the Book of Job, we see how the Devil was fighting the authority, dominion and leadership of man, and decided to pass through the wife of Job to achieve its goal.

In the words of Job's wife, she said to her husband, "Then his wife said to him, “Do you still hold fast to your integrity? Curse God and die!” (Job 2:9 NKJV.)

It is not as if I am tired of having you as my husband, but your pains are too much for me to keep seeing you drenched in it, "just insult GOD and die".

There was no difference between the goal that the Devil planned to achieve either with Eve or Job's wife. But how effective or successful the Devil would be in his fight against homes, marriages, man's authority and Dominion is dependent on how a man plays his role as a leader, a disciplinarian in the home. When he is weak in his leadership role, the Devil will prevail, but when he stands firmly, coordinated, and informed in Christ Jesus, the Devil knows there is no room for him to survive and rundown the authority of the home.

The mistake of Eve and Job's wife was grievous, they were direct attacks on the government of GOD. A man is not meant to insult his Creator; it is not fitting at all. And for Eve, it was still an issue of rebellion. All that both mistakes require to abase or die away was a rebuke or correction. Nothing makes a man impotent in the sight of God like when he is silent in leading his home, especially when the devil or the flesh has overwhelmed his wife.  

When Adam was silent at a critical time when his wife needed his intervention, and correction, the whole human race fell short of God’s glory including the beasts of the field. When Abraham was also silent, Ishmael was born which became a living threat to the descendant of God’s heritage in all generations. Man, you can’t afford to sit on the fence when it comes to the affairs of leading your home as a leader under God. (Read Genesis chapter 3, 16.)

The Bible reveals more on the issue of man’s leadership in the home, and for us to understand that the problem with Adam was not at all a matter of lack of submission on the part of Eve, the Bible says, “Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord,” yet when Serah went into error, Abraham could not help to prevent her overwhelming situation from making him cause or birth a generational problem. Both on the side of Adam and Abraham the mistakes we see in their homes are not a problem of submission of their wives, but rather a leadership problem of the man.

The response of Job to his wife is a clear indication that he was in charge and committed to his role as a leader under GOD to command his household in the way of righteousness — the way of GOD. (Read Genesis 18:19.)

Job took the right step to restore his wife in the way of the Lord, but in the case of Adam, he was found wanting: “But he said to her, “You speak as one of the foolish women speaks. Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?” In all this Job did not sin with his lips”. (Job 2:10, NKJV.”

That's an example of a man that leads his home well as a leader whom GOD is proud of. To be a husband is not the same as assuming a tyrant position to enslave everyone under your roof, but to lead everyone including your wife in the way of the Lord — the path of righteousness.

Men don't fail in Destiny because their wives are failures, but the failure of men can damn the destinies of their wives beyond remedy. As long as a man is sound and connected to Christ, what flows from Christ to his marriage is first received in him. He is the channel of Divine flow to his home. The mistakes of a wife do not and cannot undo the Divine destiny of a couple in GOD, but once man loose guard, the voyage would sink.

The most miserable excuse GOD will expect from you is to say "my wife made me fail". GOD expects that you should not allow her mistakes to cause her failure just as Adam did. When Eve needed Adam to correct her, he became irresponsible.

Every man who has his FLESH in subjection is normal — a man in charge. Every man overpowered by his FLESH is a slave of the Devil. But a man that rules his FLESH is lord over the Devil — he has the Devil in subjection. The Devil knows he can't face you directly; when you are normal: in obedience to Christ Jesus, so he will not come in person. All the Devil is looking for is to move you against the original purpose of GOD for you. So, you must stand well in your home, and be in charge, rule your home well — the role of husband is a divine responsibility to make sure both stay on course, it is not to enslave her.

Correct your wife when and where is needed, even if that were to make her bitter against you, as long as it is in the Way or Will of the Lord, such can't hinder your prayers. But this is one thing you must never do to her: never be bitter against your wife regardless of her mistakes, and love her always. You are to her corrective measures, and God respects your will, leading, and direction over her in righteousness.

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