It is not good for any man; be it the male-man or the female-man; to be alone. No one is expected to live life alone, we are communal beings, and this means that we live together as a community. We all need one another to live the best of our lives. For the sake of this series though, we are considering the woman as a wife being a companion to her husband - the help suited. Just as the word of God says in Genesis 2:18: “And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”

It is very important that before you take up a role, understanding why you were given that role or why you are taking up the role as the case may be, and what is expected of you, will determine your effectiveness in such role. Just as in the secular world, when a vacancy is being publicized for a certain job position, we will realize that the description of the job will be made known and the need for the person to take up the job. Also, there are qualifications for these roles. A serious person knows that you don’t apply for a job you don’t understand its role description or meet its necessary qualifications, you don’t apply for a position just because you like the grace and aura that comes with the position or all the algorithms attached to it.

Even if you apply for the job, you might not get it, as there are more qualified candidates with the understanding of the job descriptions and responsibilities. If you happen to get the job for whatever reason or lapses on the part of the employer, you might really have to struggle to keep the job. If such a person isn’t careful, he/she might lose the job as a result of her incompetence and inability to fit into the role expressly. For others that are wise enough, they might just decide to start learning on the job, and this will not really be easy for such a person as they will need to take courses and attend trainings and seminars that they should have taken while waiting for the job to come through.

For those that might end up losing the job, they do because they refuse to give their heart to wisdom and do the needful; gaining insights, taking courses, attending seminars and improving on themselves. Though it’s important to note here that, we cannot deny the fact that some others lose the job because of other circumstances beyond them; ranging from a difficult boss to a not so convenient working environment etc. This however, does not mean that even those that were qualified, still shouldn’t work on themselves and become a better person on that job, because the truth is we are evolving and the world is as well. This is why when it comes to the institution of marriage, we need to keep learning and becoming a better person.

Why do people grumble and complain in marriage, and it seems they are not getting along with their spouses? The reason is because they have not given themselves to the needed trainings necessary for their journey in marriage before embarking on it. Most marriages that end in divorce happens simply because the people involved were not playing their roles as they ought to. This is why it is important that we get back to God to understand the institution and also understand what we are expected to do as we get into this institution. It is very important that for anyone who have decided to go into the institution of marriage, you need to understand what the institution is about, study the origin, understand its vision and mission and how it relates to your own position.

God instituted marriage, you need to understand the vision and mission of marriage as instituted by God so you can be effective in your own role as a help meet in that marriage. This is what we will be considering in the couple of weeks to come as we consider this series; ‘Meet the Help meet’.

Call to Action: Go back to God; His word and look out for your job description in marriage as a help-meet. What would the Lord have you do as a wife to your own husband? Find out the specifics even as we begin to examine your role as a help-meet in the series to come.

Thanks for the gift of your time, Olabisi Obayomi!
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