If the main reason you want to marry her is that she is beautiful, then you are not different from a woman that bought a beautiful garment from the market. She will complain when the cloth starts fading away and wish it last more; but she wouldn't be able to do anything about it, because it is normal for a cloth to tear and fade away.

 

Take heed, beauty is good, but beauty is not a human being.  Life is spiritual, and a spirit has no colour. A human being is a spirit with a soul dwelling in a body.

 

Allow God to direct your choice, no matter how wise you may be, knowing the kind of spirit that is in a man or woman is far beyond your mind. Except the Lord guides you, certainly, you will miss His purpose for your life. (Read 1 Cor. 2:11-12.)

 

"Every good gift [including Good spouse], every perfect gift, comes from above. These gifts come down from the Father, the creator of the heavenly lights, in whose character there is no change at all" (James 1:17 CEB).

 

Something happened to a man that I know, a very strong man in the Nigerian army. Just to prove to you that choosing a marriage partner is not about your vigilance. It depends on your reliance on the leadings of God. But if there is no relationship between you and God, how will He guide you? Will you even trust Him enough that you wouldn't doubt His wisdom and guidance?

 

God loves us, but if we won't trust Him on certain matters, He will prefer to be silent over it. Except we have come close to Him and begun to learn to trust His choices and will for us daily, when it comes to bigger matters, we won't be willing for Him to have much say in them, because we have not learned to prove His wisdom, faithfulness, righteousness, and dependability in smaller matters.

 

This man I am talking about was well known and praised among many of his equals, elders and the youth. But because of his choice of marriage, he lost his life to the carelessness of his choice. This was a man that had gone on a national peacekeeping mission to foreign nations and returned without a scratch or wound. I am talking about a man that local insurgents couldn't bring down to earth. Lo and behold, his wife was the cause of his death. He died on the account of his wife's infidelity. The strong man is no more today. He was cut short in his prime because he was careless about his choice of whom he married.

 

Certainly, the man would have still been alive today, if not for that, he thought he could handle his life’s choice without God. (See Matt.4:4.) He thought his life was just his personal problem or business, and there was no need to involve God. But God is not seeing it so, as our Father, He knows we are his responsibility, and He cares for us. We can’t go through life all by ourselves without partnering with God, and we think we will be able to succeed in the very purpose that we were born for. We have to trust Him and allow Him to guide us through.

 

It is only the blessings of God that make men (women and children inclusive) rich and adds no sorrow. In God we have got our being, our survival can't definitely be outside God. We will get ourselves hurt when we think we can make the right choices without God. (See Acts 17:28; Ps. 90:1.)

 

No man who partners with God in leading his life will ever know regret. In the same manner, any man that wants to live his life or her life without God, to try out his life on his own, it's just a question of time, there are lots of forces waiting to swallow us once we reach the points of no return without the covering of God. (See John 15:4.)

 

I plead with you, dear beloved, never live your life, and make your choices without God, outside His leading. Outside there are wolfs waiting to attack and to kill and waste away. It is only in God that the strength and safety of mankind are guaranteed. Please, submit all your cares, and choices to Him and continue to Abide in Him.

Thanks for the gift of your time, I am John Ojoagbene!

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