I believe to gain knowledge of a thing; it is important that you understand why that thing was made to be in the first place. Why did God make a companion for the man as a helpmeet, in the person of a woman? It is said that when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. When you don’t understand your place as a help suited for your husband and why God created you to fit into that purpose, then it is just almost possible that you will abuse this position; assume other role and responsibility aside yours, refuse to do as you are required and do as you wish in that position.

 

Many have found themselves in this position; where they just live as the day goes by, without consciously walking the path of their role and deliberately taking up their responsibility. Just as I said in the first episode of this series; it is important to understand your role as a help meet before you get into that institution. You will always abuse whatever you don’t understand its purpose and this is the reason you see many parents abuse their children psychologically, verbally and physically, just because they fail to realize their role as a parent, not because they don’t love their children but they are yet come to the full understanding of their role and purpose as a parent. Many don’t even take time to study on the role of parenthood before the children start coming, and that way, they mess up the role given by God, raising dysfunctional children as a result of their own ignorance.

 

It is so key that you understand the purpose of everything you are to embark on before you do. Peradventure you have embarked on it, you can still ask God for the purpose, search the word for it. There is always a general purpose for a thing, but there are specifics as well. Get to understand your specific purpose to your own husband beyond the general.

 

The whole idea of getting married, the honor it brings in the society, alongside the excitements of the wedding day, thrills many to want to get married without a proper thought on all it takes to truly get married and stay married. Being a help meet is beyond getting married to your best friend and desiring to live the rest of your life with him. It requires a certain level of strength and grace as a woman. One that the Lord alone gives, because its possible to either help the man make progress or destroy him subtly, without even knowing this consciously. You have to be kitted as a woman and prepared.

 

When you hear the word ‘help meet’, it is important that you understand the foundation of the word. The word was first mentioned by God in the beginning Gen 2:18 when God said it isn’t good for man to be alone, he said he will make a companion for him, a helper suited to his needs.

 

We would see from the preceding verses of our text that God had already made the man, Adam, set him up in the work he is to do, instructed him in the way he should go before he made the woman. God had set the order in place. We just need to understand the mind of God in the scheme of things concerning marriage so we can do it correctly. God said, it is not good for man to be alone, and he said he will make a companion for him. This corresponds with the Scriptures in 1Cor 7 that woman was made for man and not man for woman. This is the word of God and God’s word is not up for debates.

 

‘I will make a companion for him, a helper suited to meet his needs’. God created you as a woman to be a companion for your husband and a helper to meet his many needs. This was the original intent and this doesn’t make you as a woman subservient or below the man, as a matter of fact, you are powerful and enlarged in capacity to do this. God created you because he knows you are capable and he gave you all the capability you need to perform excellently in it. Just as every organ is important in the body and shouldn’t be seen as not necessary or be without the other. You are important!

 

In case, you are wondering, what about the man? leave the part of the man and focus on your own instruction, as you begin to do yours and trust God in the journey, the man begins to align.

Call to Action: Go to God in prayers and ask for the specific help you are to offer to your husband. He is different from every other man out there, there is a specific way to help him. Else, you think you are helping him make progress but subtly helping him into the path of destruction. Ask the Lord to guide you.

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